Why Self-Care Matters: Reclaiming Your Power as a Mother
Motherhood is a journey like no other. It’s filled with moments of pure joy, profound love, and deep fulfilment. Yet it’s also a journey fraught with challenges, sacrifice, and, all too often, the quiet erosion of self.
In today’s fast-paced world, many mothers find themselves giving everything for their families, only to lose sight of who they are.
But what if I told you that taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential? When you nurture yourself, you unlock more energy, patience, and joy to share with your loved ones. This is the heart of the Me Time Mentality.
In this blog, I’ll explore why self-care matters so much for mothers, share my personal journey, and explain how embracing the Me Time Mentality can help you transform guilt into gratitude and rediscover your powerful sense of self.
By the end, you’ll understand how a nurtured you is the key to thriving both as an individual and as a mother.
Why Self-Care Matters: Reclaiming Your Power as a Mother
1.The Hidden Cost of Neglecting Self-Care
2.The ‘Why’ Behind Self-Care for Mothers
3.A Personal Journey: The Birth of Me Time Mentality
4.The Power of Self-Care: How It Transforms Your Life
Clarity & Compassion
Courage & Communication
Commitment & Consistency
6.Transforming Your Life, One “Me Time” Moment at a Time
7.My Mission: Empowering Mothers Worldwide
A Call to Action: Reclaim Your Life Today
The Hidden Cost of Neglecting Self-Care
For many mothers, the demands of daily life leave little time to focus on themselves. Between juggling work, family responsibilities, and endless to-do lists, self-care often becomes the first thing to be sacrificed.
Over time, neglecting your own well-being can lead to:
- Chronic Exhaustion & Burnout: Constant stress and sleepless nights deplete your energy, making even small tasks seem overwhelming.
- Loss of Identity: When you spend all your time caring for others, you may begin to wonder, “Who am I outside of being a mother?
- Emotional Turmoil: Feelings of guilt, self-doubt, and inadequacy can become a daily struggle—preventing you from pursuing your dreams and enjoying life.
It’s simple: a nurtured you means more energy, more patience, and more joy to share with your family. Yet, the message society often sends is that mothers must put themselves last. This mindset steals your vitality and holds you back from realising your full potential.
The ‘Why’ Behind Self-Care for Mothers
Self-care is not just about indulging in a spa day or taking a long bath—it’s a fundamental act of survival and growth.
When you practice self-care, you invest in your physical, mental, and emotional well-being, setting the stage for lasting transformation.
Consider these points:
- More Energy for What Matters: When you take time to rest and recharge, you become more present with your children, more productive at work, and more creative in your pursuits.
- Enhanced Emotional Resilience: By prioritising self-care, you build the emotional strength needed to handle challenges, reducing the risk of stress, depression, and burnout.
- Rediscovering Your Identity: Self-care creates space for reflection and clarity. When you give yourself permission to pause and explore your passions, you reclaim your sense of self and unlock new possibilities for growth.
I created the Me Time Mentality because I’ve witnessed firsthand the toll that neglecting self-care can take.
In my travels around the world, I’ve met mothers from every culture, race, and religion—all sharing a common struggle: the overwhelming pressure to be everything to everyone while neglecting the most important person in their lives—themselves.
A Personal Journey: The Birth of Me Time Mentality
Motherhood is a journey like no other. It’s filled with moments of pure joy, profound love, and deep fulfilment. But it’s also a journey fraught with challenges, sacrifice, and, all too often, the quiet erosion of self. For countless women, the transition to motherhood marks the beginning of a gradual disappearance—of dreams deferred, passions set aside, and identities submerged beneath the relentless tide of caregiving.
These words from my book perfectly encapsulate the struggle I once faced. I’ve been there—drowning in guilt, overwhelmed by the demands of my family, and feeling lost in the chaos. I was a stay-at-home mum who felt undervalued, a working mother stretched too thin, and an entrepreneurial mum who often set aside her “me time” in the pursuit of everything else. I lost my identity, hit burnout, and spent years and thousands of pounds searching for answers.
One unforgettable day in Turkey vividly illustrates this. I was in Fethiye with my family, and as is often the case when you’re juggling three young children, chaos erupted. My middle child, Jaxon, an adventurous three-year-old, dashed off to play on a slide. At the same time, my little one Alara, who was only one, fell and ended up with a bloody nose, and my eldest, Tobias, a sensitive seven-year-old, had an overwhelming meltdown. In that moment, I felt completely out of control—panic, stress, and guilt crashing over me in waves.
But then I remembered my high-performance habit: “peace & calm.” I took just a few seconds for myself—moments of “me time” to breathe, reflect, and visualise a calmer state of being.
I used this simple breathing exercise (one I later detailed in Me Time Mentality – A Mother Reclaiming Her Identity) to help Tobias calm down. I guided him to think like Jaxon—what would he do in a park at sunset?
Slowly, we gathered together: I managed Alara’s nose, we found Jaxon, and finally, we huddled for a cuddle. We each shared three things we were grateful for, and in that simple act, I rediscovered my strength.
That day, I learned that even amidst chaos, small moments of self-care can transform panic into clarity and control. Yet, as I embarked on the journey of publishing my book, that same overwhelm crept in again. I questioned everything—what if it goes wrong? What if I can’t do this? The fear and self-doubt were immense.
It was then I thought about my why, Empowering Mothers Worldwide, and decided it is my duty to help them overcome these same feelings and it all starts with self-care and personal development just link I outline in the book!
The Power of Self-Care: How It Transforms Your Life
So, why does self-care matter so much? It’s simple: when you nurture yourself, you nurture your family. Here’s how embracing self-care through the Me Time Mentality changes everything:
Clarity & Compassion
- Outcome: You rediscover who you are and set clear personal and professional goals.
- Impact: With a defined vision, every decision becomes intentional. You replace guilt with gratitude and build a foundation for lasting change.
Courage & Communication
- Outcome: You take bold steps toward your dreams, even in the face of fear.
- Impact: Open, honest communication with your family and yourself creates a support system that encourages growth and minimizes overwhelm.
Commitment & Consistency
- Outcome: You develop sustainable habits that protect your energy and fuel high performance.
- Impact: By committing to your self-care routine, you ensure that your personal growth isn’t a fleeting burst but an enduring transformation.
These six “C’s”—Clarity, Compassion, Courage, Communication, Commitment, and Consistency—form the backbone of the Me Time Mentality. They guide you from a state of feeling undervalued and overwhelmed to a life where you not only survive but truly thrive.
Transforming Your Life, One “Me Time” Moment at a Time
Imagine waking up with a clear vision of who you truly are and what you want. Picture a day where you’re not overwhelmed by the chaos of motherhood, but instead, you have the energy and focus to pursue your dreams. Envision a life where guilt is replaced by gratitude, and you confidently set boundaries that honour both your personal ambitions and the love you have for your family.
This is not a far-off dream—it’s possible right now. The Me Time Mentality offers practical tools and techniques to help you build these habits, starting with as little as 5-10 minutes of dedicated “me time” each day. That small investment in yourself can compound into big changes over time.
Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom feeling lost, a working mother battling burnout, or an entrepreneurial mum struggling to find balance, self-care is the keystone to unlocking your full potential. When you prioritise your well-being, you gain clarity, build resilience, and empower yourself to live a life of purpose and joy.
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My Mission: Empowering Mothers Worldwide
I founded LSJ Life Coaching and developed the Me Time Mentality because I believe every mother deserves to live her ultimate life. Through my travels, coaching, and personal experiences, I’ve witnessed a global crisis: mothers across ages, races, and religions losing themselves in the relentless demands of caregiving.
The result? Prolonged stress, depression, and a deep-seated sense of loss.
My mission is simple: help mothers turn guilt into gratitude and rediscover the powerful, vibrant women they are meant to be. I’m committed to transforming lives—one mother at a time—so that you can excel in your personal and professional goals without sacrificing the love and care you give your family.
Every day, I strive to share the insights that helped me rise from overwhelming chaos to a place of clarity and empowerment. I want you to experience the joy, resilience, and freedom that come from prioritising self-care.
Imagine a world where you are not defined solely by motherhood but celebrated for every facet of your vibrant identity.
A Call to Action: Reclaim Your Life Today
Are you ready to embrace a life where you truly thrive? Where you reclaim your identity, build sustainable energy, and transform guilt into the fuel for your growth?
The journey starts with one simple step—investing in yourself.
Buy Me Time Mentality – A Mother Reclaiming Her Identity on Amazon, launching March 30th, 2025, or pre-order your copy now at www.laurenselbyjones.com/books.
Join a community of empowered mothers and start your transformation today. Every moment of “me time” brings you closer to the life you deserve—a life filled with clarity, courage, and boundless joy.
Thank you for reading, and I can’t wait to see you reclaim your identity and thrive.
Welcome to your journey of self-discovery and empowerment—welcome to the Me Time Mentality.
Together, we’ll transform the way you experience motherhood. Your empowered, fulfilled life awaits.
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